Sometimes a counselor is an important resource because sometimes we lose track of each other and how to relate. There are so many people in relationships where both people are working so hard to love, to get along. They do everything they can think of to show love. And yet, their loved one doesn't get it. You can have two people loving each other and neither one feeling an ounce of love. Then there are those that have been hurt. Once they are hurt to a certain degree, they can no longer really listen. They think they are. They think they know what is being said and even thought around them. Sometimes a counselor can come in and help people work through that.
But then there are people that just need to hear a little love. "You know honey, I don't think I've told you how beautiful you are lately." "Pastor, I'm just calling to say hi and I hope you have a great week." "Son, I want you to know I've noticed that you've been doing your chores without being asked. Thanks." We may be absolutely smitten every time we look over at our wife, or think of our pastor as we drive by church on the way home from work. Maybe we just looked at our spouse with astonishment at our child's good behavior, for the third night in a row. But, unless we tell the people around us how we feel, there is no guaranteeing they know and we definitely can't guarantee they are feeling it.
So, I encourage you, even if it's a little uncomfortable, please don't rely on, "She knows I love her." No, please, say the words.